That's really an excellent idea, printing out the thread to show a counselor. I never thought of that.
heather, thinking of you. I think it's a huge positive that you both attend counseling. I know it doesn't mean it's the solution to the problem, but at least it's a step in seeking to figure the problems out, and that's saying something that your husband will go.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.