Also, Heather, keep in mind that H does try to sabotage whenever you assert your authority, and undermine you in passive-aggressive ways. The incident at the mall comes to mind, and that's the same dynamic as the bedtime dilemma when you boil down to it.
It's also part and parcel of his control issues. Hopefully, his individual counseling will bring that out, though it sounds to me it's more likely to come out in your joint sessions. Oughtta keep the IC sessions going when you get into JC.
If it doesn't come out, print your thread out and hand it over to the counselor. It provides a pretty decent journal of your experiences.
