A belated Happy birthday, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
Heather, it sounds like there are some huge positives here. I know how much it must hurt that H isn't wearing his ring, or welcoming you in your bed.
I think, though, just focus on the positives right now, because they are certainly there. Sometimes when we see positive changes, we want to up the anty. These little things will be dealt with in therapy. The main thing for you right now is to first end the abusive cycle of the R and to get into therapy. And H seems to be acknowledging both.
Make sure you guys get into therapy soon, keep this positive momentum going. Ya know, you can call the Divorce Busting line and they will recommend a therapist in your area. I think that is prob. your best bet to finding a good soln. oriented therapist.
