Very happy for you Heather...perhaps leading by example would be good here. I don't think it should necessarily be a decision who is to be the nicer one here or who starts it off. It should be the coming together of two people who love each other and want their marriage to work and are willing to do whatever it takes. That means throwing away the games, the bs and getting down to the nit and gritty of the situation and open those lines of communication. I think this is the hard part of reconciling and working things through, thus why some people avoid it and move forward. You both have something that is holding it together find it and work on making it stronger.
You have learned a great deal through all this about yourself and about him...time to put it all to work and perhaps lead him gently by the hand. You need your boundaries...how do you feel about them now?
I wish you well...one baby step at a time Heather!!!
