We are all here for you in your difficult time. My situation is similar to yours, although I don't have any children so I can only imagine how much harder it is when kids are involoved! The funny part is that our WAH's go for an OW that is the complete opposite of us! Your H's OW is a young college student with not much established in her life, while my H's OW is a few years older than him, has no college experience, no job and 3 small kids!!! How's that for opposite! The one thing that you can always take consolation in is the fact that she is a "bandaid," and not the solution to the problem inside him! He has the problem inside him and no OW will ever fix that!!! He's got the issues, not you!!