Don't have much advice right now for you, but I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. I know it is a small comfort, but know you can come here and be supported and not judged.
I feel your pain on the continuation of the affair. I too have recently found text and voice messages confirming the affiar with the college-aged OW is still ongoing, even though I was told by both parties it was over. I too vacilate, seemingly hourly, between feeling like I'm enabling my H with his A and then trying to DB, be his friend, and trying to save my R. In my sit, it seems we're coming to an agreement to live together for the financial stabilty it will provide our S3, but that's it....
Just keep coming here, posting, and reading others stories. It does help.
PF
PetiteFlower
Quote: Follow Your Bliss
~Joseph Campbell
