I know from the past times that he has returned home that detaching is the key. Whenever he would call me with his "I miss you" stuff, it was always after a piddly two weeks of going as dark as possible with children. Now that he works out of town during the week (this is temp until he gets an apartment in his new city) he spends the weekends at my house. I've had him spend one weekend on the floor, one weekend I told him he shouldn't sleep here because it is disrespectful for him to go spend two hours with her and then come home and sleep in my comfy house (he claims he doesn't like sleeping at her place because she has roomates, aww that's what you get when dating a college student), Xmas weekend he slept in my bed. I am planning on having him stay over at least on New Year's Eve (got plans of my own), how do others handle this? Should H get to rendevous with OW then come home to his kids, a full fridge and a washer and dryer? The other side is that there is a peace of mind that comes from having him here, at least I am not wondering what he his doing. I suppose I should act "as if" I am moving on, we are great friends, and I am letting him be close to the kids, how noble of me! (Kids don't know that we are separated again. My C sugessted they adjust to H being gone during the week, soon we can tell them that we are not moving with Daddy).
