Not much advice, but just want you to know that you are not alone in this roller-coaster ride. My H also had an A with a co-worker. Me - 34 and H - 36. H then changed job and left to work in a different country in Sept. Thought it was the end of the A, and he is just "being alone" to recollect his thoughts, and we would "join" him in Jan. Turns out..he never broke off with ow..In fact, told her that he and I separated in Sept....ow even sent her stuff to the country where he is working in now. H still vacillating between me and ow... H spent Xmas with the family, we have s@x (won't call it ML), sleeps on the same bed but feels guilty that ow will find out etc etc. So, we are somewhat in the same sh!t sitch.
is it wrong to keep hope No. My mentor tells me "Men can live 40 days without food, but not even 40 seconds without HOPE". So, continue to have HOPE.....
I am surrounded by people who think I should forget about him... People will all say all sorts of things...but what do YOU want to do? Only you know what you want.... and then strive to achieve that. I believe that "fighting" to keep your M is the RIGHT thing to do...
Sorry...can't offer much. Just hang in there and DBING your heart out....
