Quote:

D15 asked S14 the other day how he got so good on the guitar so quickly.

His answer?
"I went down to the crossroads"





Hi Ellie

Please supply a simple translation for the above!

I so hear you on the depression thing and how your son is the only one with the happy gene. I fear that my daughter may be "naturally" more like her father - depressive, narcissistic, manipulative and whatnot. She sure has changed a lot since she spent a clear month with him last summer. It is hard not to fall into the trap of thinking that everythng negative that she does is a result of her father's influence, or genes... She is just so different from how I was at her age.

I just hope your son doesn't always try to "rescue" women who are unreachable and ultimately unresuable, that is the nightmare, thinking you can help or change someone, when they never do. I don't think I thought I would change my H directly, but I did think that with a stable family and lots of love and stability, he would mellow, relax and blossom. (Once many years ago, he wrote me a card, one of the very few that was in any way sentimental or personal - more than just "love H" - which thanked me for our family, our DD, our home, and for introducing him to my country of origin, where he had always wanted to go, but was scared somewhat.) It seems not. Reading about the dynamics of narcissism, it seems that is the last thing that happens, they acutally have to get away, upset the apple cart by kicking it over.

Sorry to hijack your thread with my stuff once again...

(((((((((((((((Ellie)))))))))))))))))))

Livnlearn

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates