I agree with GEL. CeMar, I don't know if it's what you're really asking, but what's coming across is that you're looking for some surefire step-by-step list of actions guaranteed to make your W into the HDW of your dreams. Well guess what – there ain’t no such animal.
Also, for the sake of this argument, you’ve asked us to stipulate that you’re the perfect husband. That makes me even more suspicious. You say that you’re the perfect husband (and we’re going along with that). You say that you recognize that M is a partnership and that you’re already aware that you can’t change her (something with which we’re all in agreement). Then you ask for a list of steps to make a woman change from ND/LD to HD. Now I may have a suspicious nature, but I can’t help but wonder why you want such a recipe for HD. We’re stipulating that you’re perfect… You’re acknowledging that you can’t change her… So why the list? It won’t do you any good. If such a thing even existed, it would only be of value to her. And even then, only if she wanted to make this transformation in herself. I only see this list of steps as something for you to throw in her face and say, “Here. Fix yourself.”
Please tell me I’m wrong. Tell me how this mythical set of instructions is going to help you and your sitch.
