I agree with caverna on this. My H certainly does not seem any happier now than he was before (and of course, i had to point this out to him...smartass that i am ). My H tells me how depressed he is, how much weight he has gained, how alone he is. I want to say: what are you telling me for? You wanted it this way! My point is, for someone who wants a better quality of life (w/o me), he certainly hasn't gotten it yet. And i have to say, it feels good to know how damn good i look, while the beastly ow just looks, well, beastly!