what kind of a person goes away on a weekend w/o.w. and is lying the entire time to his wife? This is not the man I married,

Ugh...I try to figure this out all the time. Thats why i often have thoughts that my H couldn't possibly love or care about me if he does such despicable things. But, then i realize that i have to separate the two...i believe that when people have A, they compartmentalize things, so that the 2 worlds never really "interact." Does that make sense? Nevertheless, i still want to puke any time i think about the things he has said and done. SOB!