It’s a deal. I, too, hear all the same things from people, and find it hard to believe myself, because the one person I’d like to “want” me doesn’t seem to anymore, and the rejection is crippling. That is the only way I can describe it. It did cripple my existence for too long. As I’ve said, it’s time for us to gain self-respect. I know I can’t do that if I’m chasing my H. I also agree with what you said about D. not being the end of the world. I know in my case, there would be a lot of negatives, and not just losing H. But then there would also be pluses, like being near my family again. So, I try to remember that when I get scared about D. Try to find positives in it, but also don’t dwell on D. too much. I think the trick is to not be afraid of the topic, should it come up from H. You obviously have so much to offer, Imdi. Start believing it, and it will show. Your confidence level will go up and others will respond, and it will make you feel so much better. I know how hard it is to put H. out of your mind, but let go just a little bit every day, and you’ll start to gain control again. I know we’ll have bad days where we’ll slip up, and I forgive us for this already. But we both have to change the rules on these guys, because they have too much control, and that isn’t right. Hugs!
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
