Hey brava- Thanks for your words. Gee, i'm an inspiration? Never would have thought of myself in that way, but thank you...means a lot.
I know you are right. I am trustworthy. And i know that my H is just throwing it in my face in order to justify his own behaviors. I just wish that the ow was out in the open...he admitted it...then, we would be on an even playing field. But, i don't think that is going to happen anytime soon. I just need to remind myself that i have been doing the honorable thing by being true to my M vows. And you are right...the trust thing is his issue. If he can't see, after 13 months, that he can trust me, he never will. Or maybe that he just doesn't want to trust me. Oh, it is so exhausting!
Thanks again for your feedback...you always give me a lot to think about...i'm glad i "met" you too!
