i think that he is being honest about loving you... that may be the only honest thing that comes out of his mouth right now... otherwise, you're right, he would have filed and been pushing more... the fact that he's in limbo is a key.
Quote: I have wondered if he is just telling me what i want to hear. But, i certainly did not want to hear "we are not going to be together now" and that D is still a possibility.
I think he's shouting from the rooftops what he "thinks" is the "right" thing right now. Not only in an attempt to convince you --- but very much to convince himself. Mine is doing the same thing. It's like, the more they say it, the louder they say it, the less they have to actually deal with what it all really means. They just don't get it yet.
Quote: I do think also that he is trying to convince himself that he is doing the right thing by D me...he knows that i really have been a good wife.
I agree... but in a sense, this is twisted. If he knows how you feel about D and you've told him it's absolutely not what you want... then really, he's just trying to convince himself that this is the right thing for you... and that you'll thank him in the long run. Ultimately, they need to stop making decisions for us. And stop anticipating how we're going to react to things. They need to stop protecting us and just be real. At least that's how it is in my sitch. I've heard that same thing. And the "I could be married to you and it would be fine. But I would just keep doing this to you." Well, sorry buster brown, not good enough. You need to fix yourself and get your ducks in a row before you'll be good to anyone. And if I want to stick around and see if that happens, then too freakin' bad, that's MY decision. And I own that the easy thing to do here would be to walk away and start over. I'm not interested in easy... I'm interested in my marriage.
Hang in there. You're strong -- even in your darkest hours.
