Hope- Thanks for checking in with me today. Its late, but i had a migraine all night and am finally able to lift my head off the pillow.
I am not sure if my H sees that ow was cheating on her H. He may feel that she was in such a bad sitch, that she "had" to get out. And, he was there to rescue her. This rescuing seems to be a thing with him...and he even acknowledges it.
As for the kid thing with my H...i am not sure what to say. When we got married, i was under the impression that my H did want kids. Originally, i wanted 3 and he wanted 1. I said, okay, how about 2? And then, when we were working towards reconciling in the spring, i said that i would like at least 1, which he agreed to. Although, at that time he did say that he liked his life the way it was...he could go wherever he wanted, whenever he wanted. And he seemed ambivalent about the effect having a child would have on his life. He has always been concerned about the cost involved in having kids and this was always an issue for him. He always said people shouldn't have kids if they can't afford them. His friends have kids, so he is around them sometimes. He just seems to be easily annoyed by kids, particularly girls. So, could he feel like the ow's kids are only "part-time?"...i guess. Maybe he feels like the financial responsibility isn't really his. I don't know. I guess nothing would really surprise me at this point...he has done things that i never would have imagined, so being a "dad" may be part of the new him.
Thank you for checking in with me today. I am going to check on your thread.
