Hi lmdi -- i'll take that one - NO. sorry, was that sarcastic? IMHO, don't believe what he says until he can back it up with what he does. The thing is, if our WAS didn't talk a good game, we wouldn't be in these situations. He has no idea what he wants. He's telling you what he thinks you want and need to hear because it makes him feel better about the role he is playing in this mess. He also thinks if he keeps feeding you lines, that you'll be "on his side" once he figures things out.
Quote: Why didn't he just tell me yesterday...give up, move on...instead of leaving it up to me?
Because he doesn't want to be the bad guy here. He wants you to be the bad guy. He wants you to leave him, so that he can then say 'ha, well, she left me. i didn't leave her.' even if, for all intensive purposes he has already left. In order for him to justify his behavior, you have to be at fault - you have to be the bad guy. Otherwise, the alternative is he has to take ownership in some of this --- and that's the last thing he wants because then he has to deal with the consequences of his actions. until that time, he gets to live in fantasyland. none of this real world crap that you're dealing with.
hang in there... you're doing the incredibly brave, noble thing. he's the mess here not you!!!
