p&dbing,

This is all very interesting to read up on. If I end up having to D., I also plan to ask for spousal support. H. earns way more than I do. A lawyer told me I did have rights to it.

Keep us posted on how it's going. Again, I say that you are handling this extremely well. It sounds to me like you are aware of how wonderful you are and what you have to offer someone. Good! Plus, you have a new baby to look forward to.

I don't understand the AofA law at all. I'm in NY state. I don't know if we have such a thing.

Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.