Quote: You make the second person who's mentioned that exact case to me
If that other person is someone who has actually met your H - I would be worried, that maybe they are someone who has seen the "mask" slip? I think you should go out and get that book and read it, just to see if there are any creepy similarities. If there are too many - get out of there.
As for the "when did the affair start?" question - lots of WASs convince themselves that just because they didn't sleep with the OP before moving out, that somehow it wasn't an affair - even though they obviously left their marriage to be with the OP! DUH!! It's interesting that he made those calls to her right after you told him you were pregnant. Either he was already having an affair with her and called her to discuss the sitch - seems unlikely, given the lack of regular phone contact prior - or he was thinking of her, and as soon as he panicked about the pregnancy, he acted on it to line up a way out. Yucky either way.
