P & DB -
This week's People magazine has excerpts from the new book by Laci Peterson's mom. She talks about how her SIL told Laci he didn't want kids, and then supposedly agreed. Clearly he was a sociopath, but a very charming one who showed people what they wanted to see. (When he first met MIL, he took them to lunch, and had two dozen roses on the table, one color for Laci, one for MIL). When Laci's pregnancy didn't fit into his plans, well, we all know how he handled it.
I mention this because - well - it worries me just a bit. Sure - it's pretty common for a guy who's already having an affair to split when the W becomes pregnant. But the degree to which your H is running from this, the nastiness, and the apparent contrast with the image you always had of him - worries me. Yes, WASs almost always appear drastically changed from who they were before, and this doesn't mean they are all sociopaths! But I would be a little careful around him, think back to see if there are other past discrepancies you glossed over, maybe give that book a look just to make sure. I don't want him doing something extreme to run away from his obligation to you and your child.
