Quote: Sassy: Something she said...five years ago...let's go back there...coming from a woman that sounds pretty specific to me...sorry I pick up on stuff like that, imagine...can you have the Therapist pick up on that and see where your W was going with it?
5 years ago was when I was first in my depression and drinking every nite. One nite she and I had a fight and she got hysterical and ran out of the house, then ended up at her girlfriends. (The kids were at their grandparents visiting so they did not witness this.) She called the police, claimed she was 'scared' of me and got a restriaining order. It was dropped a few days later with no issues. Later she told me she was sorry she did it but she was scared.
She filed for divorce, and I DB'd then and finally got myself together and we did end up living in the same house for economic reasons. Eventually she saw I was trying hard and we reconciled. About 3-4 months later I slowly went back to depression and drinking. At the time I wasn't on medicatins and I didn't realize it was my business environment that kept me down. And, I stopped DB'ing and didn't get a good counselor. That's what she's referring to. Usually she says she wished she had divorced then, this time she said she wished I had 'done something' then, which is a change.
I would take that comment about wishing I had 'done something' as her recognizing that I HAVE done something now, and the kids are attracted to me and seem to be rejecting her. What she doesn't know is that they reject her not so much because of her divorcing me, but because she is so hard to be around right now.
She does seem to be totally rejecting me. Her only friends she TALKS to will validate her hurt and anger, especially OM. If she talked to most of her other friends who are 'adults' they would paint a more hopeful picture.
I can see she is 'textbook' WAW and 'Emotional affair'. Her emotions go from really happy to incredibly hurt. The 'incredibly hurt' only started a couple weeks ago. I think that's when the girls started acting up.
