Sassy thanks for your insight. Problem is I think OM is nuts.
Quote: Absofreakinglutely...so if you stand back and look at the BIG picture...does it appear to you that she is pursuing him...if he's not willing to make the next step to come see her, maybe he's just not into her
As usual I am my own devils advocate.... Orbitz says it's about $200 round trip. Maybe he HAS set up a visit but I don't get that impression so far. She hasn't erased out of her scheduler the week she marked out in mid february that he was supposed to come visit. But then, since she would have to make up a story about going to visit one of her friends, she would have told me by now if he WAS coming. Or maybe not.
In your example the guy came to spend the summer, well OM says he's going to 'MOVE WEST' as he put it sometime in the next year. Maybe he's saving up?
Quote: You haven't convinced me yet that he hasn't given up his GF...so that means, you aren't convinced either, are you? If he was emotionally and physically available for your W as a potential SOUL MATE then come hell or high water that man would find a way to her...and I speak this from experience Frank...
You know EVERYBODY tells me this. I'm the only one who thinks that maybe he is really this weird and is 'hanging on' to her because HE is needy. His (ex) GF was very needy too. It seems to me that he picks women who are needy and in vulnerable states because they are 'safer'.
In e-mails he talks like GF and he are finished and she is moving on now. Yeah, Yeah I know talk is cheap. I hate to get hopeful.
I saw a mutual friend of W and I who met OM in Hawaii and she said she felt that the depression W has been in is partly from the guilt of what she sees she is doing to the family, and partly because OM is not available to her and HE isn't making a big effort. She thinks it's not as important to him as it is to her.
Maybe like the guy from Canada he is just hanging on till he can afford to make 'the big move' out west? In your story it was over two summers, about 9 months of waiting...
STILL, the guy is 39. Unless he is a TOTAL loser with the women he must be going out looking for someone. Otherwise he's pretty bored and lonely.
The real question is when will the endorphins wear off on HER?
