Sorry Frank! I never wanted you to feel that thought your opinion was wrong or I did not appreciate it! I am new to this message board thing, and trying to convey your feelings into a short message! I agree with everything you said! I do need to upset the balance and get the whole R off the sea saw. I truly believe what you did took strength and I am not sure if it would work in my situation (just yet).. I am going to try the "kill'em with kindness" approach and wait to see if she brings the OM up after a week or so. I know she is seeing him and is talking to him (I don't need to check the phones anymore) so I will wait it out and see what happens. If she is seeing him and talking to and comes clean with it after I have tried the "Act as if approach" I think I will have to take your advice Frank and try a more a direct approach to the OM and this ping pong ball effect! Sorry again Frank for any questions becasue your words have really helped me think things thru over a very tough few days!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
