"Upset the sea saw"?! I just had a phone session with one of the DB's counsultation! It was great -- HIGHLY RECOMMEND the investmet! But he said I should use the technique "Act as if" described in Michelle's book. I am not a good actor but you have to act as if the actions that your W is doing is not as big as an issue that you feel in the inside. When she calls the OM or is cold and distant let her do her thing and outwardly act different than your normal recation. For me that is remain positive and upbeat and try to keep a smile on my face. The councilor said that my W will feel the guilt and wants the normal reaction, and when she doesn't get it she will show interst as to why. He also tried to help with "HOw to be more interesting" to my W. He said write down a life list as to all your goals and aspirations in life regardless of how crazy! Things tha get my juices flowing! Start doing them and tell your W after you accmplish one and see if she shows more interest! For me it maybe as simple as going to a YOga class or a dance class (no rythm and 2 left feet) or a little more extreme as a tatoo or a (foregie me) a nipple piercing! Anyways the bottom line as everyone has said is going on with your life! For me I am still going to remain affectionate and loving towards my W, but try to spice up my own life that is a little more extreme and exciting for me and that may attract my wife!
Tim
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