I have just finished reading all 8 pages of this thread and I feel for you man. I am about a week in on my sitch (and I would LOVE you to comment on it)
You are doing all of us such a service by posting the way you do. I know for me personally, I have been lifted as high as I have been in days just from reading your accounts. It is one thing to have a notion that you are going through something similar to somebody else, quite another to have such detail to support that theory. Thank you. As far as your situation, I am in the same boat as far as the roller-coaster of feeling that I love her and will suffer any pain to allow her to come back to me, to feeling that I hate her and she can have her OM and have a great life. Difference with my sitch is that her OM is VERY local and I have actually run into them twice, once with the kids in tow (that time, I made sure once I saw them I quickly went the other direction in the car). The added dimension to my problem is the proximity but from reading your accounts, I see that it may be no better to have the OM be long distance. I hope you continue to progress and I hope you find a way to keep ahold of the kindness that you display here and the love that you obviously feel for your family, including your wife. She may not deserve it, or you may not deserve the woman she once was but if you make it through this, you will have a legacy of openness and caring that would be enviable to all but the coldest among us. Power to you Frank and I really do hope your story ends well. You really deserve it. I will continue to follow your story.
