Quote: Yeah, she gave me the 'are you dating because if you are that would be great' line. I told her that wouldn't happen for a couple years because I know that I am not in an emotional place where I COULD be in a relationship. Of course, SHE is in that place isn't she? She couldn't be in a relationship with me, how could she have one that is healthy with someone else?
So I will begin to block HIM out of my thoughts and see HER as someone to pity because she feels the only way she can be loved is to chase losers instead of FIGHTING for a man she KNOWS is a winner. She said so herself that I was wonderful, etc.
I am almost done blaming myself as I have seen her hurt first hand, but also seen that SHE DID NOTHING SUBSTANTIAL to deal with OUR (not just my) problems. It doesn't make me BLAME her but it does make me feel less guilty.
Okay, again, way too many parallels. Don't even know where to start so I won't.
We're on the right path Frank. But I think you said it a couple times - look at how DEEP we have gone to understand ourselves. We have done RIGHT by ourselves and we have to constantly remind ourselves of that. It will ultimately draw our WAW's back to us - or maybe not. But think of how prepared we will be for whatever is next - when we are ready. We CONTROL that and can do it with CONFIDENCE. Check out HardHeads post on confidence and cowardice if you have not already. Think it speaks nicely to the sitch.
To close on something my W said today - and I lied to her, but okay.
The boys and me had a great weekend - you might have read in my post. W calls on her way to work this afternoon - I didn't answer - we were sledding and having fun. Anyway, first, she makes the comment that I am avoiding her....tee hee.
But in her message, she asks if I'll bring the boys by the restaurant thtat she works for dinner. That she misses them....having to work weekends and such and going to her "girlfriends" - a lie, but okay. I lie and tell her they miss her too - call it an A&V. (Boys have not brought up MOM all weekend - I kid you not. That's fathering!)
Anyway - stay the course Frank...
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Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
