Quote: Try to find something to pity your W for, anything will do. In your case pity her for having such a loser boyfreind. Chnage your self-pity into pity for your W and the loser. You are a winner. Once you have the feeling of pity you can start to detach from the sitch with compassion. Try it and let me know. Watch how dramtically you will transform yourself from hating your W to loving her again. This love will be with compassion and unconditional. Part of the word compassion is...passion. Your W will start to feel this and when she does things will change.
Hey, I actually noticed a week or so ago when I was angry with her that I was also feeling sorry for her because she could be so much more with our family intact and working together with me than she would with 'maggot boy'. He's in her profession (massage) and has said he wants to work with her (her dream of having a partner who does what she does) but that doesn't mean jack since he is NOT in the level of personal development she is at and nowhere near where I am at, even when I was depressed!
When I had those thoughts I DID feel better then.
I think I'll make a list of things to feel sorry for her and see how it works for me. Maybe I'm at that point now where I CAN do that and include OM in the equation because he is a loser who is going to drag her down with him.
I still have to come up with a stopping method for when I think of her with him. I'm still shocked and betrayed that she could give her body to anyone else. Have to figure out how to block that one.
