frank, Here is a technique I have been using, not perfected yet so use at your own risk. Try to find something to pity your W for, anything will do. In your case pity her for having such a loser boyfreind. Chnage your self-pity into pity for your W and the loser. You are a winner. Once you have the feeling of pity you can start to detach from the sitch with compassion. Try it and let me know. Watch how dramtically you will transform yourself from hating your W to loving her again. This love will be with compassion and unconditional. Part of the word compassion is...passion. Your W will start to feel this and when she does things will change. This is what I am doing right now. I have pity for my W that she has to use Food Stamps and her parents let her. I can go on but I wont. You get the idea. Once I satrted doing this I was able to detach. I asked myself, do I want to go back to that? No way.
