W says she loves me and goes on a trip. Then falls for someone she meets in one day and is her soulmate.
She pursues him for weeks till she is able to go see him, then they sleep together and are 'in love'.
All this time she tells me that we were going to get divorced eventually. It's not because of him. Nope, not at all.
After 'in love' begins she treats me like I am just a friend with no regards to how I might feel. She becomes very superficial with the kids, who notice. She spends time calling, e-mailing and messenging with OM who is far away. He starts promising to see her, to move near her and other stupidity.
After a month of that she starts having problems sleeping and sudden mood swings. She is down for days, then up and happy. It's a daily rollercoaster.
Finally, we see our counselor together and the floodgates open. She is hurt, angry, sad, ashamed of how our marriage went. And it is all because of me and things I was doing during my depression and drinking days. She was 'trapped' with nowhere to go and wanted me to get better but finally gave up, then met OM which made her decide to actually divorce.
What a lot of change in 3 months. Up until the trip to see OM, she and I have a really good 'being friends' relationship. I can see her soul in her eyes still. I can feel her love sometimes. After OM she is emotionally gone.
