because no matter what you did or think you did, it wasn't enought to cause this to happen, it was going to happen anyway.
I believe that. At first, when I started learning about meeting emotional needs and all, I saw where I wasn't on track. As time went on, I realized the possibility that perhaps some of her needs were a bit too much for anyone to meet on a long term basis, having to do more with her dealing with her own issues and coping abilities than being spoon fed them by someone else. Also, the knowledge that thinking "if only I had done this or that" is way too simplistic and does not rule out that things would have turned out the way they did, and the fact that many relationships have common problems as mine did, that need to be dealt with appropriately, but which she handled very inappropriately, all indicates that, yes, this was bound to happen sooner or later, no matter what I may or may not have done.
