Quote: want you to do me a huge favor...go stand in front of the mirror...what do you see? Hmmm...I see someone, a man, named FrankD who has HIS act together...think about it...you are there DBing your little heart out
Frank, these guys (okay, gals) are right. I did this today - just stared. I really needed to do it. My W pulled a similar thing to me on the phone tonight which reminded me how sexy she is...it hurt....but you know what...I need not care right now. Similar to you, as I detach, I find that I am not looking at the person I thought I was months ago. She's in there, somewhere however. I'll admit I'm playing a little bit with fire as I 180 and "act as if" - which includes being flirtatious - but I know that although it'll burn sometimes, it's worth it! She seems to think that I was a loveless, passionless, wimp. Guess what, I'm not. And as her friend has said to me a couple times - you are the biggest (figurativly) man I have EVER seen. Only one in ten men would put up with the crap we are being put through. Same goes for all the ladies out there on the BB. GOD BLESS US!
I think too the walk was good. You need to be getting some of those thoughts in there. Reality time W.
Hang in there. We need to believe that the majority of couples that do reconcile eventually is because they use the DB'g techiques. We should all be proud of what we are doing.
E
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
