Actually that's a little game I play with my H sometimes to try to get his attention...I don't blatenly flash him, but I'll sometimes leave the door open while I change so he can seek a peek if he wants, but I usually stay turned around as to leave a little to the imagination.
I feel your pain of betrayal. It hurts, but that old adage is true - time does heal the pain.
Long distance EA will eventually get old, furthermore so much anticipation of *the fantasy* will be created that actually meeting those expectations would be impossible.
Hang in there and keep supporting your kids b/c they need you now while their mommy is lost at sea chasing whales.
