Quote: When D10 went to bed she asked me to sit with her so she could cry, because she needed to cry. I did for about 15 minutes. She couldn't tell me why she needed it, she just did.
We went to a movie and I would see W occasionally wiping a tear or two from her eyes and look away. At one point she got up and had to go somewhere for about 10 minutes. It wasn't during any sad parts of the movie either.
W. sounds depressed, and maybe it has nothing to do with what's going on with OM, although it is good that you heard from your friend that OM may not be telling your wife what she wants to hear right now. Let's hope that keeps up!!
You still see her and spend so much time together (compared to some of us with WAS's) that I really feel hopeful for you. I don't think there is anything you could be doing differently or better, to be honest. You've got a good hold on the situation, and you aren't pushing W. into anything.
You and I are both on new ground with this detaching plan. I've decided to go the same route, because anything else is just not getting me anywhere, and it literally made me sick. We have to take care of ourselves, and let them do the same.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
