I spoke to a friend who was in Hawaii during the beginning of the Affair. She told me that she had a feeling that OM was not telling W what she wanted to hear right now. She thinks there may be a change brewing. Now, of course she doesn't know, it's just her 'feeling'. She really thinks very little of OM and said she DID tell W in Hawaii that he was not a good person. Still doesn't know why W went for it though.
Anyway, this friend sees me once a week so I can get a massage from her (boy do I need it!). She was very excited and optimistic after I told her the story of the last week. She said 'You are the one holding all the cards, OM has nothing. At some point W will notice that it's YOU who has been there for her when she's down, not HIM.'
She also pointed out that she has seen the changes in me each week and is very impressed at how I get into a problem and make it my focus - the problem being I didn't know how marriages work, and I didn't know how to give and receive love unconditionally. Now I do both.
It was really great to get that feedback. Whatever is going on with W's Affair or her emotional state is her problem and I have always been the 'fixer' in our relationship. Instead I am detaching / letting go which will help ME to stay out of the negativity.
I feel good. I need to maintain this.
My newest goals:
I am holding all the cards. I am growing and changing. I will bring my family back together. I am the Superior Man. I am real. I can stay in my heart space and allow the events to unfold as they should. My wife and I will have a wonderful life together.
