Just got done talking to a firend of mine on the east coast (I live in california, used to be from NY state). Told him I have decided to 'let go' and stop giving W the supportive environment she has had so far from me. His response 'About time, should have kiked the whore out' His wife: "Honey, I know you want her back, but she's crazy and you ned to protect your kids".
How many of us get talked down to by our friends because we are willing to 'let' our WAS have an affair because we believe it is something that can be overcome? This particular friend can't understand why I didn't kick her out when I found out she slept with OM. Now he's 'happy' that I am finally getting it.
His argument came down to these point:
A) We are crybabys who want to keep our spouse so bad we'll let them get away with murder so we won't lose them. Boo Hoo.
B) It's a 'west coast' thing. East coast people would boot a cheating spouse out and get a divorce right away.
C) Somehow, there is a huge amount of denial in us and we simply won't see that the cheating spouse is a loser and we should get rid of them, make them try to live with no money. teach them a lesson.
My argument of course is:
A) There is a lot more going on here than an affair. There are emotional issues that caused it and our love for the person dictates that we must at least try to help them through these issues.
What kind of reactions are YOU getting from people who love you about DB'ing?
