I'm starting a new thread because I want to re-frame my journey into becoming a slow walk home.
Had a long talk with a friend today who said to me that OM really really doesn't mean anything. He is saying that since W is living with me and is now being more friendly and open so we can be 'friends' that there is a part of her that is wondering if I'll try to get her to reconcile. In other words will I go back to being 'needy'. That same part is wondering if I have really changed and will the changes last forever. She feels empowered by her affair because to her it means she doesn't 'have to' stay with me, she has choices.
She is getting her love needs fulfilled by her EA. But she has to be a little lonely and I'm the only one here. My friend thinks that when she is being nice to me she is testing me to see if I'm going to be needy, or go into a mode where I need to be 'fixed', or if I am going to pull her towards me. OM has lots of problems but she doesn't see him as needy right now and she is so overwhelmed by the 'in love' drug that she doesn't think straight anyway.
So I am starting a new thread to focus on ME and US and the here and now. I still need input from everyone as to what is going well because It isn't always obvious to me.
