Boy do you have a rude awakening coming! "I am going to get a laywer to review and to know what my rights are and that we are taken care of." Don't count on it. Lawyers see your situation as clinical, an opportunity to bill, bill, and bill some more. It hasn't yet begun to suck. So, read DB and understand that the best thing you can do is not telegrapgh any punches. Don't react the way you did (180) and don't discuss relationships (go dark). Oh, and pray.