My XW and I used a mediator. All things considered, it was economical and fair. We agreed to a 50 / 50 split on everything. She kept the house and bought me out - eventually....

However, when I do get bitter, I wished I had used an attorney and ruined her life, as she did mine.

But, I am NOT bitter most days anymore.

We were not living under the same roof, nor seeing a marriage counsellor, as she wanted out ASAP!!!!

Hope that helps a bit.

M: 35; Together 14 years - married 5.5
no children
Bomb 22-JAN-2005; D a few months later
First real relationship post D just ended ( 7 months ):(