I really need some advise again. I may have to break my darkness on Monday.
It's a long story, but I was going to my daughter's house (three hours away) on Christmas day to exchange gifts with her and her H but b/c of car problmes don't want to try it. Also my H is buying a car from D and he needs it. So my D and her H want to bring the car here and have our Christmas Mon evening with the 4 of us.
I was originally suppose to be with my H on Sunday, but since I went dark, thought it best not to. I might have plans for Sat night and maybe Sun. My question is; can I be with my WAH and D and her H on Mon without breaking the no-contact that I imposed since this is almost a have-to sitch? I though I could kind of ignore him. Thoughts?
I welcome any advise on this, as I really feel overwhelmed by it.
I'd say sure, as long as he is coming to your house and you are not to his. This is Christmas, while we have to maintain the darkness, no one would expect you to not have CHristmas with your family. Maybe keep conversation with him to a minimum, and use the opportunity to be beautiful and cheerful and like he is missing out on something.
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Just thought I would check in on you...this is truly a tough time for all of us...we're trying to make a new holiday memory this year...it's going to be a bit tough on me because this will be the first time in 5yrs that my daughter and I will be separated at Christmas. For the past 5yrs since my D we had always gone to celebrate with Dave's folks...now she's going to her dad's for the first time to spend with him and GFs family. It will be a quiet day for me, time to get caught up on paperwork for year end and massive house cleaning that has been neglected the past couple of weeks. Keeps me sane...Best wishes to you honey...
Good to hear from you. I know you'll be fine this holiday. You do have us to communicate with. Sassy you're a winner. Your posts are so positive, so interesting, so helpful.
I went on a date with the older man last night. He took me to Red Lobster, then to his house to see his new cat, then we came here and had cookies. He asked to date me exclusively. Of course, I refused. So we'll see if he continues to ask me out.
I have a date with the younger one tonight. And will be seeing my H tomorrow and again on Mon with D and her H. He had called and asked about Sun and I told him I'd get back with him later so I called him last night after the older one left and he came over for about an hour and we just talked.
I put a recent post on the Separation forum real early this morning titled: Broke 5 Days Dark, He Called, I Caved, Help! Have gotten pretty good response.
Well, I need to rest up for tonight, all of this is making me tired. I'll be so glad when the holidays are over.
