Told my WAH no contact 3 days ago, and now I do want to be with him on Christmas. Thought I could do it, but am crying almost constantly.

Most of the advise is to continue NC, and maybe if it wasn't the holiday season, I could. But I feel the mental anguish is making me physically ill.

We were originally suppose to be together Christmas day. If I backed down now, would I undo any of the respect that he might be feeling for me? Is there any way I could contact him without losing whatever I've gained?

Any advise is greatly appreciated--no matter what you tell me!

Rere