Relationship Killers

[TSinAtlanta]

I simply meant you werent coming off as being acerbic, taunting, or contemptuous as you did previously, despite my forgetting what MCP was, though I am the embodiment of it.... <I think an x majic markered it somewhere around here.... >


Hey, look at this. A description of NPD (refer to ZFB and others who are talking about the NPD Diagnosis), from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV-TR, a handbook that mental health professionals use to diagnose mental disorders).

"DSM-IV-TRspecifies nine diagnostic criteria for NPD. For the clinician to make the diagnosis, an individual must fit five or more of the following descriptions:

1.He or she has a grandiose sense of self-importance (exaggerates accomplishments and demands to be considered superior without real evidence of achievement).
2.He or she lives in a dream world of exceptional success, power, beauty, genius, or "perfect" love.
3.He or she thinks of him- or herself as "special" or privileged, and that he or she can only be understood by other special or high-status people.
4.He or she demands excessive amounts of praise or admiration from others.
5.He or she feels entitled to automatic deference, compliance, or favorable treatment from others.
6.He or she is exploitative towards others and takes advantage of them.
7.He or she lacks empathy and does not recognize or identify with others' feelings.
8.He or she is frequently envious of others or thinks that they are envious of him or her.
9.He or she "has an attitude" or frequently acts in haughty or arrogant ways."

Also,

"Other symptoms of NPD include:

a. a history of intense but short-term relationships with others;
b.inability to make or sustain genuinely intimate relationships
c. a tendency to be attracted to leadership or high-profile positions or occupations
d. a pattern of alternating between unrealistic idealization of others and equally unrealistic devaluation of them
e. assessment of others in terms of usefulness
f. a need to be the center of attention or admiration in a working group or social situation
g. hypersensitivity to criticism, however mild, or rejection from others
h. an unstable view of the self that fluctuates between extremes of self-praise and self-contempt
g. preoccupation with outward appearance, "image," or public opinion rather than inner reality
h.painful emotions based on shame (dislike of who one is) rather than guilt (regret for what one has done)"

Now, all those posters like LilliePerl and GEL and HP and the others have something to hang their hats on (you [that is, me) are "hateful, childish, deluded . . . ."], and some other things that I am too lazy to research). Just call me NPD-Man.

Interesting that this site NPD Page also mentions that use of SSRI's (like paroxitine [Paxel]) to treat NPD can actually reinforce ". . . narcissistic grandiosity and lack of empathy with others." I take a minimum dosage of Paxel (20MG) for anxiety. Apparently, according to this site, there is at the present time no recommended drug of choice for treatment of NPD.

Please don't think I am flipping off all the posters on this board and that I don't take them seriously. I gave up posting for a couple of months at the beginning November, because I had a day-long training at that time I had to present to some clients of our software, and noticed that, as a result, I think, of the massive cricitism from posters on this board, my self-esteem was quite low. And so, I felt insecure about how I would come across to our software users and whether I would be able to conduct the training satisfactorily. However, everything went swimmingly. The IT manager, the Office Director and Sales Director said the training was very useful and told me they were very glad they had arranged it. So, feedback from posters can have consequences (that is, my temporary low self-esteem). I just don't accept most of the criticism. And so it goes.