Sorry, but I think this IS your birthright. Why do you think it isn't?
blackfoot said
Quote: Lil there is no birth right. HP has the right to be loved as her H is capable, and she earns, thru loving him as she is capable and he earns.
When honey said "love slave," she was being a bit facetious and a bit literal, but the point I want to make is that no one has to EARN the right to be loved. Love isn't something that someone pays us because of what we do and who we are. To be loved by another is pure, unearned grace... and it is our birthright.
Of course I don't mean that honey has the God-given right to expect that this particular man or any particular man will be her personal slave and be at her beck and call and do everything she wants sexually and otherwise at the drop of a hat. That's ridiculous.
The point that I'm trying to make is that we do not have to perform and/or produce in order to merit/deserve/earn love. And in fact we cannot, as many on this board know from experience. We can perform and produce till we turn blue and our partner does not have to love us or act loving.
But honey and each of us has the birthright to be loved in the way we want to be loved and not to settle for less. When I read your statement, honey, it just seemed to say to me, "I have no right to expect anyone to be my 'love slave' and I am misguided, wrong, and out of luck if I believe I have a right to the kind of love that would really fill my tank."
Everyone can make a choice about) what the "deal-breakers" are, but that doesn't mean we were wrong or "getting too big for our britches" if we want more.
To be loved and to do nothing to EARN it-- I believe this is a birthright.
As for the specifics of how that plays out in life... well, that's a different chapter.
