Lillie, Fwiw, both H and I were wrong wrt the princess thang.
I got waaaay more than crumbs (and still do) but it was those darn expectations that were my downfall. I expected him to do and say and feel xyz and, boy, he'd better do it too. For his part, he very much felt that having a clean house was a perfectly reasonable thing to hold over my head. No clean house, don't expect a kind and loving husband. Expect a critical assh*le who berates me for hours and withholds affection.
We both had to change. It is not my birthright to have a man who is willing to be my love slave. (and may I take this opportunity to say DAMN IT!!) And it is not his birthright to have a fastidiously clean house, cleaned by *someone else*.
