hmmmm... maybe H needs to see emotions? Not anger or blame, but need and hurt from you? Just a thought. I know that my H isnt very emotional and I sometimes think our sitch doesnt bother him. It bothers him deeply, but he masks his emotions because he's afraid. You seem afraid to show those emotions for fear of pushing H away. What if you told him how you feel.. not in a blaming way, but in a vulnerable way? That you need a friend.. you need to be loved, held, understood. That you're lonely, scared and afraid of losing him? Asking him to work on it is a demand. Telling him you will if he wants is asking him to trust. If you've read my thread, you can see how my H is very good to run around here picking up, going to the store, making breakfast, etc.. but to me those things don't necessarily translate to him caring for me and needing me personally, they just show a willingness to work together on household things. Could your H be viewing your determination around there the same way - that keeping up with everything isn't for him? I know it is.. and you're helping me to see that the things my H does are for me and to show he cares.
Just some thoughts.. you know your H pretty well and how he'd respond to you telling him how you feel. I agree with Opti though. He responded to you leaving once.. he's left once and came back home. If he really really wanted to leave, he would. But if he stays, wouldnt it be nice to know he's staying for you and not for the business? You deserve that!!
