Hey WCW. YES! There are days when you sound like you are describing my marriage. Yes, I don't like to plan. Yes, I wait till the last minute and past it. Yes, my ex planned and planned (our standard joke was when she got a piece of paper and a pencil and I would say "Making another list?"). And most of all Yes, I did absolutly nothing to meet her halfway. I let her carry the ball lo these many years until the day she felt as though she was done taking care of everything and decided to take care of herself instead.
I don't condone H's actions, but I understand them and I did them. Probably one of my first official 180's after the bomb was a vow to remember to do things in advance to plan for whatever to prepare for whatever to be more like the organized type person.
Your wish to be able to do things together hit home too. My ex said the same thing to me and I didn't get it. Whaddaya mean? We do stuff together all the time (I'm not talking about sleeping in the same bed or other extremes you have of course).
I guess what I am saying is you have just expressed standard WAW frustrations. Maybe you can find solutions from that perspective. I'd be glad to tell him he is in grave danger of losing you of course, but he's not likely to listen to me. Hell, I didn't listen until it was too late.
