Zman, I know you love her but I don't think you are going to get your turn with her. She doesn't seem to have it in her and *nothing* has made her willing to try, not even divorcing her.
I think you are a wise man and are doing what you need to do now...namely, grieving...and then you will find peace of mind and clarity of thought and will know what to do to next. You remind me so much of my husband..I know we've had that convo repeatedly, but I truly wish you peace in the near near future.
Let me ask you this: In the reading you've done on the NPD message boards, are there any happily married couples? CAN this work in some as-yet-untried fashion, with you two?
Big squishy knock the wind outta you hug coming your way,
