Going to go back to your other post in a minute because there was something there very close to home in it but just wanted to comment on this one thing.
Your last few post are really hard to read your frustration and your pain really pour through your words. And it so so sad to see someone in so much pain.
I am going to give you my take/answer to your closing question.
when do I get my turn?
Not until your wife decides to make what is important to you important to her. She can be ND and still have sex. Mrs Nop does it. And way more often then what it would take to fill alot of HD mens love tank. Why? Because it matters to her that her H be fufilled. Only if your wife decides this really matters to her will you ever get your turn.' Every sucess story on this board has taken both partners working towards a common goal and both partners willing to come out of there comfort zones to met each other needs.
Just my opinion. Sorry it is not a little more encouraging
