Quote: You lowered your needs. I have said you cant do that, I have said the mans mental state controls the R. So you have allowed this.
Not sure I understand how I can control this. I have listed my Full needs before and people said this would be impossible from a very LD women. So I have created a starting point that is as stripped down as possible, and hopefully I can work it up from there.
Quote: If you were truly confidant you would know your W wants you. She is not LD.
My wife is not even LD, she is ND. She has openly admitted to me that if she never had sex again, it would not bothter her. Please explain to me how a person with no sex drive can actually "want". I can understand that they could "Love" but "Want" is beyond that.
As for the things she used to be, she really is not these today. She was athletic, now she is fairly overweight, and even as much as she exercises, I am afriad that her thyroid problems don't allow her to ever lose weight. This causes big time body image problems in her. I NEVER complain about the way she looks, SHE does. She does not see herself as sexy anymore. Intelligent and likeable, still there.
