My x abandoned me. My x emotionally abused me pretty bad for a short spell there. She cut me off and gave 'it' to someone else.
I dont hate her.
You know why? Because I own the fact that I gave her the power to abuse me. That was my choice. I stopped it when I had enough. I took back my power, when I wanted to be in charge of my life, and not a victim.
Your externalizing, and victim attitude is making ME go blech. Your emphatic use of absolutes and assumptions that you are doing everything correct is making ME go blech. Your belief that this is impossible to resolve, is MAKING? ME go blech.
No I am choosing to read your negative energy, just as you are choosing your beliefs as to the possibilities, probabilities and outcomes.
Your wife will mirror all of this white heat from you untill you burst into flame, and you blame the mirror for the suns heat.
It seems clear to me that your finacee has no freaking clue as to how a relationship works.
Only in the rarest circumstances would I put a womens ability to keen a R, lower then a mans, and usually, primarily her inappropriate response patterns are only because of previous abhorrent handling of her by respected (by her) OM, and NOT her lack of a freaking clue.
Get what it takes, what you need isnt sex, and what she needs cant be found in a book. Or admit you dont have what it takes with this one, and get on with your life.
Here is how you appear currently.
Cemar< I cant catch any fish.> helpful OP. <what kind of bait are you using> Cemar< I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP <What kind of fish are you trying to catch?> Cemar <I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP < Have you ever fished before?> Cemar <I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP < Do you know how to cast?> Cemar <I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP < Where is your fishing POLE?> Cemar <I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP < There is no water in the lake.> Cemar <The sign says I can fish here.>
