Jeez, my fiancee has not TOLD me she does not like kissing/french kissing, but she might as well. The other night laying in bed I told her that I wanted to kiss her, and her response was "Why?". How sad. I guess she assumes or has fear that <god forbid> that may lead to something else, but that is not true. I enjoy kissing, and I think this is *very* important in a relationship! It is another one of the things that define a relationship as special between a couple. However, it seems like I practically have to drag out even a peck on the lips at this point.
Are there LD women who enjoy and/or even seek kissing/french kissing from their partner, but yet are not interested in sex? Since this is another form of intimacy, I can't see this happening very often.
THere are LD women that like other kinds of affection. But there are also a ton of LD women that avoid ALL types of affection. It seems clear to me that your finacee has no freaking clue as to how a relationship works. You probably have less then a 1% chance of having a good marriage. You will grow to HATE this women.
My x abandoned me. My x emotionally abused me pretty bad for a short spell there. She cut me off and gave 'it' to someone else.
I dont hate her.
You know why? Because I own the fact that I gave her the power to abuse me. That was my choice. I stopped it when I had enough. I took back my power, when I wanted to be in charge of my life, and not a victim.
Your externalizing, and victim attitude is making ME go blech. Your emphatic use of absolutes and assumptions that you are doing everything correct is making ME go blech. Your belief that this is impossible to resolve, is MAKING? ME go blech.
No I am choosing to read your negative energy, just as you are choosing your beliefs as to the possibilities, probabilities and outcomes.
Your wife will mirror all of this white heat from you untill you burst into flame, and you blame the mirror for the suns heat.
It seems clear to me that your finacee has no freaking clue as to how a relationship works.
Only in the rarest circumstances would I put a womens ability to keen a R, lower then a mans, and usually, primarily her inappropriate response patterns are only because of previous abhorrent handling of her by respected (by her) OM, and NOT her lack of a freaking clue.
Get what it takes, what you need isnt sex, and what she needs cant be found in a book. Or admit you dont have what it takes with this one, and get on with your life.
Here is how you appear currently.
Cemar< I cant catch any fish.> helpful OP. <what kind of bait are you using> Cemar< I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP <What kind of fish are you trying to catch?> Cemar <I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP < Have you ever fished before?> Cemar <I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP < Do you know how to cast?> Cemar <I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP < Where is your fishing POLE?> Cemar <I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP < There is no water in the lake.> Cemar <The sign says I can fish here.>
Quote: Cemar< I cant catch any fish.> helpful OP. <what kind of bait are you using> Cemar< I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP <What kind of fish are you trying to catch?> Cemar <I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP < Have you ever fished before?> Cemar <I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP < Do you know how to cast?> Cemar <I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP < Where is your fishing POLE?> Cemar <I cant catch any fish.> Helpful OP < There is no water in the lake.> Cemar <The sign says I can fish here.>
You just wrapped up the "Funniest Post of the Year" award at the annual SSM Awards Show. Who's the MC this year, anyway?
Are you saying that LD women actually understand male needs in a relationship? It seems to me that women are JUST as clueless about male needs as us guys are about female needs. How many women actually uderstand male sexuality and how it interacts with his own self image? I know my wife sure as heck does not know much about it.
What if she does know? What if, consciously or unconsciously she is choosing not to meet your needs. What if the reason she isn't is because you don't listen, don't ask questions, don't even know who she is? What if her behavior is a message to you?
Cemar, I mean this in the kindest of ways. Start really "listening" and responding to the people on this board (particularly women) and maybe you can start doing it in real life. My hunch is Cemar that despite the AOS that you have listed on this board your angry attitude, your negativity toward your W, your insistence in pigeon holing her as "LD" comes through loud and clear at home.
